“I believe in the compelling power of love. I do not understand it. I believe it to be the most fragrant blossom of all this thorny existence. —Theodore Dreiser”
Sarah Harris is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. From the start, she emphasizes that she takes a strength-based approach to relationships, and that as long as both partners are committed to working on improving the relationship, then she will be there to guide them on this journey.
She does not only work with married couples, but have worked with a variety of relationships. Sarah starts almost of all of her sessions asking about any positives that have occurred in the relationship since the previous session. She encourages the couple to view the relationship almost like a plant that they both have to care for. The plant will not survive on its own, but needs their careful attention and nurture. It might at times be hard work to care for this plant, or even inconvenient, but ultimately it is worth it in the end.
It is possible to be happily married and to have a successful marriage. You do not need to settle for just an average relationship. Sarah’s strong beliefs in relationships, is reflected in the work that she supports couples with. She recognizes that for many couples, they arrive to therapy when they are frustrated, overwhelmed and possibly burnt out with the relationship. Many times couples get caught in an unhealthy cycle or dance. They don’t even realize that the same pattern might be repeating itself. Sarah,is there to help them identify their cycle and learn how to change the dance.
Sarah utilizes beliefs and interventions from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which recognizes the role that adult attachment plays in relationship. She seeks to develop a secure attachment bond with the couple, which in turn leads to an increased level of satisfaction. Homework might be assigned at the end of the session, usually drawing from The Gottman Method or The Five Love Languages.
Sometimes, you might leave the session feeling emotionally fatigued, overwhelmed and unsure. Sometimes, you might leave the session feeling hopeful, rejuvenated and confident. It is part of the process. Be kind to your self. Be kind to your partner. Be kind to your relationship. If you are in a relationship that you value and want to keep, Sarah is here to remind you how that, “Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new”. —Ursula K. Le Guin”